1) Assessing and Planning
1) Assessing and Planning
1) Assessing and Planning
We will explore what has brought you together as a couple and we will look at the similarities and differences you may have with regards to your expectations and values, and your own unique ways of communicating and interacting as a couple. We will be exploring issues such as family of origin, race, culture, expectations about sex, partnerships, marriage, and finances, and we will determine if any of these could represent a challenge and if so how to tackle them together.
2) choosing to Love
1) Assessing and Planning
1) Assessing and Planning
We will discuss and set realistic expectations about what love looks like over time. Successful marriages or long-term commitments require intentional work to show and maintain the same level of love and sexual desire over time. Together we will explore the idea of both good and bad times in a relationship, changes and transitions in the individual and in the couple, romantic love and attachment, and what are some of the ways to enhance mutual feelings of love and respect.
3) Being empathetic
1) Assessing and Planning
4) asking for needs and wants effectively
We will address the important role of empathy and love, particularly in disagreements. We will also address the importance of listening to each other and feeling heard while in conflicting situations, looking at how to appreciate differences whilst fostering mutual understanding. Used consistently, empathy as a tool can shift the style of arguments from one of blaming to one of understanding each other more clearly with a capacity to compromise.
4) asking for needs and wants effectively
4) asking for needs and wants effectively
We will focus on how one can be able to clearly identify and express needs and desires, so that they can be communicated effectively to each other.
While these can change over time the key is to find a healthy balance between meeting one’s own needs and meeting the needs of one's partner. We will address issues such as work, household chores, and parenting/co-parenting.
5) fighting respectfully: how to fight on the same team
We will think together how conflicts and conflicts come about and how these may lead to an unnecessary sense of triumph or resentment. We will also consider how to effectively address conflicts, manage needed timeouts, reach compromises, and learn how to apologise when necessary.
6) keeping the spark alive
We will discuss how to engage in a creative and dynamic sex life by looking at ways in which to identify and address responsible desire. We will also discuss how to cope with changes in desire levels and low desire periods which are an inevitable aspect of any long-term partnership.
how it works
BOOKING THE ASSESSessment AND PLANNING SESSION
BOOKING THE ASSESSessment AND PLANNING SESSION
BOOKING THE ASSESSessment AND PLANNING SESSION
I can be reached by mobile phone, email or by filling in the form in the CONTACT ME section, to which I will respond within the next working day. We will then engage in a brief (10-15 minute) conversation. If it feels appropriate, we will schedule the initial assessment and planning session either face-to-face or online. The initial session will be scheduled at an agreed time and will be 60 minutes in duration.
deciding on a plan and duration
BOOKING THE ASSESSessment AND PLANNING SESSION
BOOKING THE ASSESSessment AND PLANNING SESSION
The plan consists of 6 sessions, one of 60 minutes (assessment and planning) and 5 of 50 minute sessions which should preferably take place on a weekly basis at a day and time agreed upon in advance. The plan can be modified at any stage to reflect any particular needs that may present.
fees
BOOKING THE ASSESSessment AND PLANNING SESSION
fees
The Assessment and Planning session is payable in advance and the fee for this is £120. The full cost of the six sessions is £620 and £500 is payable at completion.